If you are a regular reader of my blog you may have remembered that one of my toddler new year resolutions was to take more naps. Well unfortunately for mommy that hasn’t happened yet. Mommy remembers when I was younger it was all about naps. I would take them all the time. Now that I’m older and everything is happening around me, how can I ever begin to take a nap? If I do decide to take one I would miss out on so many things. Today I have Diana Julian who is a certified child sleep consultant at Big Sky Lullaby. Mommy and I didn’t have the slightest idea that infant sleep consultants existed. Well, she is here today to give some tips and insights for moms with little ones like me who don’t like napping.
While going through the training process to become a Certified Child Sleep Consultant, I learned that bedtime is non-negotiable; naptime should be treated the same way. I often have clients who tell me that their toddler decided they do not want to nap anymore. My response to them is that as the parent, you decide when naps will end, not your child. Inconsistencies are a part of parenthood. However, a regular routine is a different story. Once a child has their normal schedule ironed out, this is when exceptions can be made and once in a while, a nap can be skipped for a special occasion.
Let’s get the scientific facts out of the way. Infants nap throughout the day and there is a reason for this. Naps affect night sleep and vice versa. Think of naps as part of the 24-hour daily sleep cycle. When a child outgrows the infant stage and becomes a toddler, this doesn’t change. Naptime remains an important piece of the sleeping puzzle. Naps allow the body and mind to rest and provide both mental and physical restoration. The benefits of a healthy sleep routine are endless. A child with a regular naptime and bedtime, based on biological sleep waves will be focused, happy, and of course, rested. What we have learned through studies and research in just the past few years is that healthy sleep as a child has an impact on our adult behavior and cognitive ability, as well as our concentration and mood.
If you are a parent reading this blog and wondering if your child should still be napping, I encourage you to ask yourself this; “What is my child’s behavior like at the end of the day?” We often hear parents make remarks about their child acting cranky, stubborn or having behavior issues and they attribute it to their child being tired. This is not the case for a rested child. Appropriate behavior is exhibited by a child who is getting adequate amounts of sleep, both day and night. Cranky behavior is not just something to brush off, as a parent we need to figure out the cause behind it.
One of my philosophies about child sleep is that parents need to enter into each developmental stage as prepared as possible so that they don’t have to go back and correct behavior. This is a perfect example of why; “Over many weeks or months, your child develops ‘cumulative sleepiness’ until he hits a wall and becomes overtired. In this state, it is difficult for him to nap because his body is geared up to fight the fatigue.” If you do not give your child the option to skip a nap, then you will not have to figure out how to get them to start napping again. “There are good naps and bad naps. Occasional nap strikes may not be harmful but nap-stubborn kids are usually overtired.”
My intentions are not to scare parents with toddlers who do not nap, or to make them feel guilty or as though they are an inadequate parent. My intention is to give them the facts so that they can understand that sleep needs to be one of the highest priorities of parenting. “Small but constant deficits in sleep over time tend to have escalating and perhaps long-term effects on brain function.” Parents of toddlers who give in to their child’s refusal to nap are not intentionally delaying their mental and physical development. Parents do not influence negative sleep habits on purpose. That’s where I come in, part of my job is to educate parents on the benefits of a healthy sleep schedule so that they understand why and how sleep positively influences their child today and in the future.
I really can’t emphasize enough how important a consistent nap routine is for a toddler. Sleep Inertia experienced by a child is just one result of disturbed sleep. It can be explained as the intermittent state where sleep and wakefulness overlap. This overlap state is uncomfortable for children and causes disorientation as well as physical pain. Parents are often confused when their child wakes from an extra-long nap unhappy. The simple answer is your child has been missing too much sleep. Also, if you are experiencing a child who is “wired” and not able to entertain themselves, it is because the high cortisol levels produced in their body after missing a sleep period makes the child too tired to nap. “A sign of sleeping well is a calm and alert state. Upon awakening, well-rested children are in good cheer and able to play by themselves.”
I would like to thank the lovely Miss Madison for the opportunity to make a guest appearance on her blog. As this post is coming to an end I leave you with one thought, “It is simply not true that children who miss naps will “make up” for it by sleeping more at night. In fact, the sleep they miss is gone forever.”
Diana Julian is Montana’s one and
only infant sleep consultant. She has been blessed to work with children for
over ten years and her education and life experiences have influenced her to be
an avid child health enthusiast and now certified sleep expert. She owns the
company Big Sky Lullaby and can be contacted via email: firstname.lastname@example.org or at telephone
Weissbluth, Marc. Healthy
Sleep Habits, Happy Child: A Step-by-step Program for a Good Night’s Sleep.
New York: Ballantine Books, 2005