Being the Other Woman is Not OK

For the women sleeping with another woman's husband, it's not OK.


So your husband had an affair. That pill can be hard to swallow. You're angry, upset, hurt, disappointed, infuriated, pissed off. So many words to describe how you may feel right now. And then there's the other woman. You're also mad at her for sleeping with your husband. What happened to the girl code of, "we don't go there?" Apparently, you didn't get the memo on that one, McCall, Britney, Kayla, Amber, Chelsea, Whitney, etc.


Back in the day when I was growing up, the only conversation we had with married men was "hello, how are your wife and family?", not "hello when can we hook up?"  With today's society, it's become the norm for women (and men) to sleep with other people's partners. When did this become the norm? When did we say this is okay? How do people like this look in the mirror knowing that the man, or woman, they are sleeping with belongs to someone else?

And more importantly, how can that man (or woman) come home to their family knowing they did wrong.

Cheating can ruin many things:

The wife's feelings (or husband's). There are no words to describe how a woman feels after finding out her husband slept with someone else. She can no longer trust her husband, and many times this is enough for a spouse to walk away.

Lives are affected. Not only does the wife get hurt, but the children may also be affected by this. There's pain, embarrassment, and potential gossip the family will endure. Cheating on a partner may lead to a period of separation and divorce. Think of how a child must feel knowing their Mom or Dad left them for another family?

Distrust between husband and wife. The victim can no longer trust their partner. This bond has been broken, and it can be hard to rekindle.


How does it feel to know you may be the cause of a divorce? How does it feel to know he will never really ever be yours, and you're just another Taylor Swift song? For a mistress, you may think the wife is the stupid one. But you are being played as well. The only person that has it going their way in all of this is the husband. He gets to have his cake and eat it too (until it's all gone and have to deal with the mess he created).  He is lying to you, telling you he is going to leave his wife and kids, but you and I both know that's not going to happen. You are the side chick that is easily replaceable. Valentine's Day, Christmas, birthdays, etc. are always going to be spent with the family, you will come after that.

For a side chick, this would not be a pleasant life to live. Some women enjoy being a side chick and purposely helping to wreck marriages. The blame starts with the man. But if you, as a woman, know you are messing with a married man, why would you continue pursuing it? How would you feel if the tables were turned on you? Women that can put aside their morals, the girl code, and all the red signs of pursuing a married man, exposes how little they value themselves. Is your self worth that low that you would stoop to being with someone that's already involved with another, instead of finding your own?  Do you not think that you're capable of finding your own?


I find it hard to sympathize with someone who thinks that they're "in-love" with another's partner. Love takes time to grow and during that time you might have found out that he had a family, so why continue your relationship? You wouldn't go into a department store and steal the clothing off the racks, so why would you take someone that belongs to someone else? Life is short and there is someone out there for you, just not that one!