Identity the Negative People – this may be the most difficult part of the detox, because you must admit that people in your circle of friends or family are negative people. If the person is someone who constantly makes you feel less worthy, exhausted and places you in a negative mindset consistently, then it’s time to identify them as a negative person.
Let go of the Guilt – as stated earlier, it will be difficult to identify the negative people in your life and ultimately place yourself as a priority. These challenging decisions will leave you feeling a little bit guilty about detoxing your life of these negative people. Guilt will be a natural response to this process, learn to get go of the guilt so you can move forward in your own happiness.
Place Value Upon Yourself – remember that you are a valuable person who has self-worth and the freedom to live a happy life. Negative people will deter you from living life to the fullest and reaching your full potential on the happiness meter. Start placing value upon your needs and your mental health by putting yourself as a priority.
Tell the Negative People Goodbye – while you may detox your life of negative people in a brunt way, others prefer to be more subtle about it. Whatever method works well for your personality is the best way to go about telling these negative people goodbye. You don’t have to literally say goodbye to them, you can start to distance yourself until they fully disappear from your life and you are left with only positive people in your inner circle.
Negative people will slowly work to deteriorate your health and mental wellbeing. Let’s be very clear, negative people don’t always do these things on purpose, it’s simply who they are and how they are wired. While you may feel sympathy for these types of people, you must remember that you are a priority in your own life. By placing yourself first and detoxing your life of these negative people you are saying that you value your wellbeing over anyone else’s and that’s how it should be.
the most negative person in my life is my mom. Everything is a drama with her from burnt toast to rainy days. I try hard to not let the negativity flow into me but it's hard. I like your advice here adn plan to put it towards detoxing my life.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear that. My mom was pretty good but sometimes she could be negative, however she's gone now. Maybe you can talk to your mom and let her know how you feel.
DeleteThese are some great tips. I actually did this for myself about 8 years ago. It was not easy but it had to be done.
ReplyDeleteSome things just need to be done! Glad you were able to get it done sooner rather than later.
DeleteI love this so much! Toxic people can absolutely suck all the energy out of your life. The only way to move forward is to excise them from your life.
ReplyDeleteYou've got that right! They really can suck the energy from you.
DeleteRecognizing the people in your life that are not helping you is hard, letting them go hurts but it must be done.
ReplyDeleteIt most certainly must be done and while it can be hard, it's really for the best.
DeleteIt is so important to not let negative people ruin your life. Toxic people can make everything miserable.
ReplyDeleteBecause misery just loves company.
DeleteThese are all really great tips. It can be hard to realize when someone is having a negative impact on your life. It can be hard to let people go but sometimes it's for the best.
ReplyDeleteIt really is for the best and you don't realize how much you are better without them until you are without them.
DeleteIt definitely can be a hard thing to do, but sometimes it is necessary! These are great tips!
ReplyDeleteYes sometimes it is very necessary.
DeleteSo much YES! within this post. I have cut people out of my life that I once considered my best friends and have zero regrets. Sometimes you need to put yourself and your own well being first.
ReplyDeleteThat is very true and I've done the same over the past few months myself as well.
DeleteIt is hard to detox your life. Ever since I left my ex last fall I have found myself doing that a lot more lately. But, I am making new friends who are positive and full of life.
ReplyDeleteThat is awesome! And let that ex continue to be just that, an ex.
DeleteI think detoxing from negative people is important, but I think intentionally spending time with positive people who inspire and encourage you to be your best is even more important! I meet every Monday morning with 2 amazing women. We all set our goals for the week and talk about what we want to accomplish in our lives, our families, our businesses, and our finances. We encourage each other throughout the week too! It's been life changing for me!
ReplyDeleteThat is awesome and yes you are very much correct. You need that balance.
DeleteI decided a long time ago that I was not going to let negative people control my life. I cut them out as though they were a cancer. I have to say that it has been a great thing for me.
ReplyDeleteNegative people can be like cancer and yes you need to get them out of your life completely.
DeleteThis is so true. I have neighbors like this. I love them but they wear me out.
ReplyDeleteYou so do not need that in your life.
DeleteMy sister is a real negative person. I tried to be subtle with her, but eventually just said "Good-bye!" We haven't talked in over 6 years and I feel much freer without all her negativity bringing me down.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about your sister but you do not need the negativity in your life.
DeleteStaying Positive is essential to staying happy. A friend once told me that you can be a friend to someone until you feel them bringing you down.
ReplyDeleteWhen you feel down all the time with someone, it's time to cut your losses.
DeleteI try to stay away from negative people as much as possible. Sometimes, it's hard, though because it's a family member.
ReplyDeleteWhen it's a family member it can be tougher to do but you have to do it for your own health and wellbeing.
DeleteThis is very encouraging for people the need to weed out the negativity in their lives. Its very toxic and can be damaging to your health and well being. Great read!
ReplyDeleteYes it can be. Thank you Janell for stopping by.
DeleteSuch a great reminder! We should really eliminate negative people from our lives. This can bring us happiness and peace of mind! Worth-reading!
ReplyDeleteYou do need that peace, and negativity will never give you that.
DeleteI had a friend who was really negative. After my wedding, I had to say no. It felt so good to have her out of my life!
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just have to say NO!
DeleteTelling the negative people goodbye is hard. They seem to latch on and never go away!
ReplyDeleteThey do tend to do that, don't they?
DeleteThis is great advice. A couple of years ago a very good friend of mine stopped talking to me for no reason. At first I was upset, but then I felt relief. She had become so filled with drama and negativity. I was embarrassed anytime we would go out because all she ever talked about to others was her problems. Negativity really can drag you down.
ReplyDeleteOh yes it really can bring you down. I'm glad that you were able to get Negative Nancy out of your life.
DeleteI've had to do that a few times, and only once, I was wrong. But then I think I wasn't really wrong - I just needed space while a friend went through some things I couldn't help with. Sadly. Now we're close again. With others, though, the detoxing was for a reason.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just have to do what you have to do. I'm glad that you were able to do what was best for you.
DeleteYes, I've tried to really kiss the negative people goodbye. I think I've done a decent job with it too.
ReplyDeleteThat is awesome. I think I've done a great job of that too.
DeleteGood Advice! I also hated Dramas and I try to stay away from negative people so it will leave me a peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteI hate the drama myself too but I have been known to stir it up at times lol
DeleteI have absolutely zero problems with this. I cannot tell you how many negative people I've said goodbye to in my life, and I'm so much happier. It's amazing what a good detox of the horrible people in your life brings you! - Jeanine
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you have been successful in doing so. Kudos to you!
DeleteI've known some negative people during the time I spent as a corporate slave. I think the reason they try to spread all that negativity is because they are insecure of their position and they make the good employees miserable so they would just leave. I am so glad I got out of that place before it affected by health.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you were able to as well. You do not need that in your life.
DeleteGreat post. Negative people can just take all of your energy and make you feel so down. Get rid ASAP!
ReplyDeleteYes you need to get rid of them as soon as possible.
DeleteThis is a wonderful post! Lots of good tips to handle negativity, sometimes we just need to let go of people, but it can be so hard!
ReplyDeleteYes you just need to let go at times and move on.
DeleteI used to date negative men for some reason. In the beginning of course they never let that side show until it was too late. It was always so sad to see them so unhappy and angry at the little things in life. I am so glad to be away from that and will never date anyone negative again. I am all about positivity and negative people have no place in my life.
ReplyDeleteThat's good to hear that you're doing better. You do not need any negativity in your life.
DeleteI clear out my friend group every couple years. I don't need negative people weighing me down. I prefer to surround myself with happy people who support and uplift me.
ReplyDeleteSo happy for you and you've got the right attitude about it.
DeleteI couldn't agree more! Life is too fleeting to let people take the joy out of your life with their negativity.
ReplyDeleteYes it truly is and you do not need any negativity in your life. Life is truly to short to not enjoy it.
DeleteGreat list to heal yourself of negative people and their energy. I actually will tell someone a goodbye because I dont want them to just fall off - I want them to know why and make my peace so its clear. Good info.
ReplyDeleteThat is a great way to say goodbye so that they know exactly why. Thanks for your input.
DeleteHow can I say goodbye to negative people if they are really near to me. Great tips!
ReplyDeleteI don't understand if you're asking a question or just talking to yourself.
DeleteSadly, I have two sisters who are absolutely toxic. The only solution was to cut them from my life. It was not only bad for me, but for my kids as well.
ReplyDeleteHaving toxic people in your life can be bad for everyone involved.
DeleteI love this! Since I had kids, I've been all about this. It's too much work to keep negative people in your life. It's better to get the negativity out of your life.
ReplyDeleteIt really is best to get that negativity out of your life. You do not need that!
DeleteThis is such an important post. There are so many negative people around me, I always make sure to keep a distance and stay away. It can become so toxic!
ReplyDeleteYou don't need that toxicity. Keep them far away from you.
DeletePlace value on yourself is such a great tip! I think all too often we let toxic things stay in our lives because we don't value ourselves highly enough!
ReplyDeleteThat may very well be the truth, and it's usually because of some insecurity.
DeleteI have no problem with cutting negative people out of my life. The block or hide from newsfeed does wonders and exists for a reason. I'm a super positive person, so I don't associate with people that are negative. Negative = toxic
ReplyDeleteWell it's easy to do that on social media sites, but what about the ones that are in your every day life, like family etc?
DeleteThis is great, it's so important to place value on yourself as you said and get rid of the negative. It makes you such a happier person!
ReplyDeleteAnd that's the result you want. You want to be happy!
DeleteSo much truth in one page. I've grown to appreciate "evasion" tips like the ones above related to avoiding negativity. Sometimes, you might not know they're around you all the time and you keep blaming yourself instead. Such a "No" for that one.
ReplyDeleteThank you Karla. I personally try and avoid negativity as much as I can. No need for us all to feel bummed out.
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