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Stop Hiding Behind the Camera - #Impressa #PoiseMoment


Are you always hiding BEHIND the camera? Today I shared the reasons why I now share more of myself and how Poise has helped me gain my confidence back.


I used to get asked all the time, why don't you show more of yourself? Why don't you post more photos of you? Why is it just photos of Madison? And I would always say, "I'm not photogenic enough to get in-front of the camera". It's not that I think that I'm ugly, or that I'm shy, I have never felt comfortable in front of a camera or been comfortable in my own skin. I have never liked seeing myself in photos but I've started changing that, and it's not because I feel MORE comfortable. That's very far from the truth, it's all for my kids.


I lost my mother almost 2 years ago and it still hurts, every day I think about her and every day I wish that she were still here with me. When I went back to the Caribbean to bury my mother, I took her photo albums because that's all I wanted. I wanted the memories, but I recently decided to take a look at them, and to my surprise, my mother was very much like me. She hated being in front of the camera as well and her photo albums consisted of pictures of me as a child and pictures of the grand children. What happened to the photos of her? What happened to the years and years of her life that she spent on this earth? What happened to the many trips that we took together? Why were there only photos of me and none of her? Why were there hardly any photos of us together? It's because my mother as I mentioned was just like me. She loved me enough that she wanted as many photos as she can of me, but she didn't think that I would also love to see more photos of her as well.


As a mother, we love our children and we want to preserve as many photos as we can of them, from the time they were born right up until they graduate college, get married, have children of their own, then it's photos of the grandchildren, as in the case of my mother. What about the photos of us? I then made a mental decision. I don't want to be like my mother. I want to have photos that my kids can look back upon. Photos of our trips together, photos of us spending time together, and photos of me. Raw, true to life photos. Photos of me smiling and laughing as hard as I could, photos of me crying, photos of me being silly, playing games with them, photos of me just being me and enjoying their childhood and me being a mother.


This isn't just for me. When the day arrives, where I cross over to the other side, I would love for each of my children to have their own photo album that they can share with their own children. That they can say, this is a picture of your grandmother, or great grandmother, or even great-great grandmother. I may not be photogenic, I may not be fashion forward, but I'm me and I want to share that with my generation.


However it hasn't always been this easy for me. I used to hate laughing out loud and being my silly old self. Laughing out loud would have absolutely meant that I would leak. As a matter of fact, laughing, jogging, playing basketball with son, any sort of activity would mean that I would somehow end up with an underwear that wasn't completely dry. I was diagnosed with Stress Urinary Incontinence (SUI) a few years ago, so I suffer from Light Bladder Leakage (LBL), trust me it's not as sexy as it sounds. I was missing out on what life had to offer and missing out spending and enjoying time with my kids. As you know, I have talked about Poise Impressa quite a few times on my blog here because they have worked for me, but I also use the liners as well which also work extremely well. They go hand in hand and just like my wallet and cell phone, I never leave home without them. Here's something to note, Poise Impressa doesn't absorb leaks, they stop them before they even happen and because our bodies aren't all shaped the same, you can buy a sizing kit (available at Walmart) to figure out what size you are. It's not a one size fits all. I'm a size 1 and that's what I use.


Now I can truly enjoy myself because I know that Poise has me covered. I can spin and twirl and laugh as much as I want. I can now get in front of the camera and show not just the world that I am me, but I now have photos that my children can show their children, and their children can show their children, just what an amazing person I was (yes I'm also conceited). I can now seize my Poise Moment!

What about you? How are you seizing your poise moment? 

Annmarie John
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  1. All I can say is I just was saying this past weekend that I don't have nearly enough photos of me with my family. I am usually the one taking the pictures and behind the camera lens. That said, I need to do something about it and get myself out there in the photos, as well. By the way, you look amazing in these photos and so glad to be seeing more of you in front of the camera nowadays around here, too :)

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  2. Thankfully I never had leakage issues, but there are a group of older moms in my zumba class that sigh whenever a song with jumps comes on.

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  3. I don't have to worry about this yet, but I know it's coming. I will say that I have always been more behind the camera than in front, so I love this post!

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  4. I'm so glad you're getting into the forefront of your life! The camera is great, but only if you use it to document your family and not as a curtain! <3

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  5. I am glad to see you in front of the camera, you are gorgeous! We don't have that problem, it is my spouse who is shy, so he takes all our pictures.

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  6. First, love the dress! And second, I am soooo like you. I don't like being in front of the camera. I am trying to get better at being more in front of it!! You have the natural beauty-- so embrace it girl!!!

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  7. Oh my goodness how amazing do you look and your hair - I just adore! I have to admit I don't do in front of the camera I am very awkward in front of it and end up just looking a bit silly as I don't know what to do!

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  8. Well this hit home. I'm never in the photos...I'm always taking them! I need to rectify this :) I'm still so in love with your hair!

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  9. I love the idea of having photo albums for each child! And also, I have to tell you that I absolutely love your purple hair! It is amazing!!

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  10. I need to get better about being in front of the camera sometimes. I am always behind it.

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  11. YES! This is so important. I LOVE old photos of my parents and grandparents. They are priceless to me. I don't want them to not be in the pictures. And your kids will love having pictures of you from back in the day to look back at and show them to their kids.

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  12. The dress is beautiful! I love having my picture taken and taking pictures of my kids to have fun memories for them to look back on. My parents took a lot of pictures of us growing up!

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  13. I'm sorry about the passing of your mother. Its interesting that you both werent in front of the camera as often as other family members/kids. Love seeing your face in these photos now!

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  14. I absolutely love this! I am typically the one behind the camera, but leaving my children with precious memories to look back on is extremely important to me. Thank you for the reminder!

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  15. LOVEEEEEEE FEELING 1000000% protected and confident!! :)
    And um, can I just say, I FRIGGIN ADORE your hair!!!!!!

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  16. I love seeing your beautiful smile.

    I try to get pictures of myself with the kids, but quite frankly, I'm often the one taking the pictures, so there's few of me with them.

    Thanks for sharing.
    xoxo

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  17. I'm starting to ask people to take my photo because I want to make sure my kids have pictures of me from when they were growing up. Thank goodness for selfies!

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  18. I am also guilty of this. I have to remind myself to step in front of the camera instead of only being the one to snap the photos.

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  19. I have to constantly remind myself of this. I have to make an effort to step into the photo with my kids instead of always being the one snapping the photo.

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  20. It is just so much easier being behind it - especially when you are a mom! This is a great post.

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  21. You look amazing! I totally agree that it is important to take pictures! I take pictures of everything.Now that my mom has passed, I really appreciate all of the photos and vidoes that she was in and that she took or recorded.

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  22. Can I just say that I this post is really beautiful and heartfelt? It's definitely a lovely reason to take more pictures of yourself. The kids will appreciate it especially in the future. Keep showing more of yourself! It's beautiful. You're a beautiful person!

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  23. Hmm I have never used or heard of poise before. I also just use tampax pearl. Or get whatever they got, sometimes you gotta get what you get.

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    1. Hi Daniella, Poise Impressa is not a tampon, it only resembles one. It's actually a product that helps women who are suffering from SUI. It prevents leaks rather than soaks it up, so it's nothing like your Tampax Pearl. 😉

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  24. For a while there I was always behind the camera and never in front as well. I started thinking that one day my kids wouldn't have pictures of us together when they were growing up so I made that change. I keep insisting my step-mom get in more pictures too, because I know I have very few of my grandmother and I want those pictures one day. That poise product seems pretty great too. I have used their liners in the past, but this one is new to me so I will have to look into it.

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  25. I really need to start getting out in front of the camera more, I am missing out! I love the idea of the Impressa!

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  26. We have these two things in common and neither is good. I miss my mother and Mother's Day is tough and I try to concentrate on my kids and me at these times.

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  27. Taking pictures is really great for memories especially when you already have kids. I love your hair and your dress. You look great!

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  28. I had leakage issues during my last baby and even now when I sneeze I have to cross my legs. Just happens, and I'm totally not embarrassed about it. I do however, need to get in more photos you are right! Stop hiding its a must! - Jeanine

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  29. You have some great photographers! I love watching you grow in front of the camera. And I can really see a difference. You know I can! It's my life!
    I love this. Poise is wonderful.
    Spin and twirl and laugh, girl! You deserve it.

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  30. It is so true, we spend more time taking pictures of our kids and less time being in them. Granted when they are little is hard to get them to take a picture with you, but we should be better at trying.

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  31. My dad used to take all of our pictures or videos. So you hear his voice, but you don't always see him. It's nice that we have the option of taking selfie photos and videos today so our kids can see how we looked and interacted with them when they were kids.

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  32. I have read a lot of positive reviews about Poise. I am happy that women can enjoy with whaever t hey enjoy most without being anxious about an "accident." Thanks for this post and BTW, you're looking great in that dress!

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  33. I have the same problem when I laugh or jump. Very grateful for things to help out with this.

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  34. I'm always the one taking the pictures in our family. I'm always joking with my husband that I'm hiding behind the camera instead of jumping in front of it.

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  35. First of all, I love your purple hair. Looks really chic. That dress is beautiful as well. You look very glamorous.

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  36. Pictures are so important. Before blogging at 12/13 I was my families journalist I have always love taking pictures and video of my family. I just had a recent death in my family and looking at that family member through the photographs reminds me of the good times and it is good to be in front of the camera too, your kids will need the memories!

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  37. What gorgeous pictures of you - you should totally model for a clothing brand (if you don't already:)! I'm like you though - it might be because I love taking photos so much that I just haven't got the time to be in front of the camera haha x

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  38. You look fabulous! You should definitely be in every pic with your kids. Those memories are theirs to keep too. :)

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  39. I love your dress! Love your hair too! Although I don't have issues, yet, I bet my mom would love this. Lots of peace of mind!

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  40. These photos are gorgeous! And yes I am always behind my camera too. Definitely have to change that one!

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  41. You look beautiful and I love taking photos of my family too. Try to capture as many pictures and memories as possible.

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  42. This was me until recently. I decided to show myself more on the blog and was glad I did. You look amazing.

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  43. You look gorgeous! I also totally feel this post. I'm almost never in front of the camera. I need to be there more.

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  44. For a very long time I did not take "selfies" - I used to in high school and college, before the iphone was invented. I have been making more of an effort to be in front of the camera because I know I love looking at old photos of my mom and my Nana, and want to have those experiences for my children as well.

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  45. I am so glad that you are going to stop hiding behind the camera. You are creating lifelong memories.

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