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Simple Ways to Make Your Marriage Last


The most memorable day of your life has come and gone, that day you said “I do” to the love of your life, the person with whom you had envisioned the rest of your life with. Getting married is probably one of the most uplifting and heartfelt days of your life. Then life happens. You get married, buy a house, get a career and have children. It’s no wonder so many marriages start to feel like a disgruntled employer and employee relationship. Many times a marriage consists of at least one working spouse and one spouse that predominantly tends to the children and household duties. While this works well for some, it may not work well for everyone. There are some simple ways to make your marriage last, and they won’t take a lot of effort either:



Learn to Love Without Conditions
Think about your spouse as you would your children, seriously. You will forever love your children unconditionally regardless of how ill behaved, bad manner or out of control they can be. When you learn to love without conditions within the household, for both your children and your spouse, then you are on to something. Marriage takes two people who will promise and follow through with the act to love without conditions. Today you must start to view your spouse as you would your children and no we don’t mean this in a degrading way, we mean from a heartfelt way.

Keep Private Matters, Private
With the days of us all posting our most intimate moments on social media it’s no wonder a marriage no longer has privacy. It’s these moments of intimate relations that need to be kept private; it allows you two as a couple to ensure you maintain a close bond. When you start to showcase your intimate moments on a whim to the online world, you are opening your marriage up to scrutiny. This is not something you want in your bed with you. While you can brag and showcase the love you have for each other online, try to keep some matters private so that you have something just the two of you hold dear.


Do Not Argue About Finances
Prior to even getting married you both should have a huge discussion about how you will handle bills and household finances. While we understand many of us aren’t that proactive about our marriage, we are in love and just want to be tied in Holy matrimony to our loved one. With that being said, it is super important to maintain an agreement about how finances will be handled. You can do this after marriage, but remember to consider each of your own needs as well as the needs of the household. Learning to be okay with your partner making a small purchase because they worked hard and earned it is something you both will have to agree upon. Never argue, point fingers or scream about finances, it’s something you can make more of tomorrow.

Come to a Middle Ground
Regardless of your differences in opinions, beliefs and thoughts on how the marriage should work, each of you should be able to find some middle ground to come to. When you are in a marriage it is no longer just about you, this person you swore to love ‘til death do you part, is an important piece of your world now. Start treating your marriage as if there is no other option but to figure out a way to negotiate, compromise and unconditionally love this person for the rest of your life.


Let's discuss: What other ways can you think of to make a marriage last. 

Annmarie John
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  1. These are all great tips. My tip would be to never go to bed mad at each other.

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    1. That was one that my husband and I said when we first got married, these days we go to bed mad all the time lol

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  2. This is such a great resource for any married couple. It's amazing that we'd ever need this list since it's all mostly common sense, but when you're stressed or just not thinking, you make mistakes that can have a lasting impact on your marriage.

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    1. And that is true. A lot of marriages fail because of words said when angry.

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  3. Great, great tips. Marriage is work, but no one realizes just how much work it is until they're married. A road map for navigating it is a huge help.

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    1. It is a lot of work, hard work and dedication between two people who really want to make it work.

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  4. Great tips! I was just talking to my daughter about how much work it takes for a successful marriage. I would also add to not play the blame game. When I do this, it takes away focus from the problem at hand. Solving that is more important than to beat up my husband.

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    1. And that is also true, never lose sight or focus.

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  5. These are all good tips. It can be difficult to do them, but I also think they would only help a marriage get stronger.

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  6. These are so important. My husband and I have watched several friend's marriages crumble due to these exact things. The other point I would make is to make time for each other.

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    1. Making time for each other is very important. It makes no sense being in a marriage and feeling alone with your significant other spending more time with friends and others and not with you. Might as well be single.

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  7. Wonderful tips! It's so important to set some types of "rules" (like not fighting about money) that the two of you agree upon. They are made to help the relationship grow and definitely foster better communication.

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    1. Yes it is important to set ground rules, it does help with your communication.

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  8. I think that learning to love without condition is so very important !It would help strengthen the marriage for sure.

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    1. That is true, unconditional love conquers all.

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  9. These are great. I think it's important to have clear communication about the right ways to fight. If you don't know how to fight in a healthy way, be ok with learning from people who do.

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    1. That is very important, words can hurt and have a lasting effect on a relationship so be careful.

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  10. These are great tips. It takes good communication and some work to make a marriage last but it is worth it.

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    1. If you are dedicated to your marriage and want it to last, then it is definitely worth it.

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  11. These are all phenomenal tips! My husband and I must be doing something right since we will celebrate ten happy years together next month.

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    1. Happy Anniversary in advance. I wish I could say that I'm celebrating happy years of marriage. While mine was fine at the beginning it has been anything but lately. :)

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  12. I think another way - which is similar to that "middle ground" idea - is choosing your "battles". I mean - do you reeeeally need to get all upset over something tiny? Really? Know what I mean?

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    1. Oh I certainly know what you mean. Sometimes the little things that you worry about, you look back at it a few days later and ask yourself "seriously, why was I upset?".

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  13. These are really great tips! Come Feb we will have been married for 10 years! That is crazy to me it's also really huge. We have great communication and things just work for us! - Jeanine

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    1. That is amazing! You seem to have a system that works for both of us. Congrats!

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  14. I'm not married yet. I'll be sure to remember these tips when the time comes!

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    1. Please do. I wish I could start over sometimes because I'm one to say that my marriage hasn't been the best or easy, and there have been times when I wished that I was still single. :)

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  15. I think these are super important and communication seems to be a big part of all of them. Learning how to compromise helps a ton.

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    1. Compromise does seem to help. If you both can't compromise it will never work.

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  16. Talk. Don't let things go unsaid, especially loving, kind things and saying I'm sorry when you really mean it and BEFORE you have to be asked. These things go a long way.

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    1. Oh they do go a long way. Just a simple compliment, oh you look nice today can make your spouse's day.

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  17. These are great points, marriage is totally something you have to constantly be working on to keep the relationship strong.

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    1. That is the key, keep on working on your relationship and marriage.

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  18. Touch is a big one. Intimacy is so important. I read somewhere you should try to touch your partner at least 5 times a day. A simple shoulder squeeze, a rub on the back, a pat on the rear end, hugging. Doesn't matter what, just try to connect through touch.

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    1. Yes touch is very important and shows that you want to be connected to your partner. Makes no sense being with someone who's afraid to touch you.

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  19. These are great tips and all true. My husband and I have been married for 29 years. We never discuss about money and coming to a middle ground always works for us.

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    1. 29 years is a long time to be married and stay married these days so I commend you. Keep on doing what works for you.

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  20. The underlying theme is definitely communication. Communication is key for any relationship to succeed, but definitely marriage!

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    1. That is very true, without communication your marriage is doomed.

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  21. Tips is a great tips,Me and my hubby would go to bed mad at each other

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    1. Going to bed mad at each other doesn't help, at least it doesn't help for me.

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  22. I love these tips, especially the part about keeping private things private. It took me a few years to learn that and it would've saved me a lot of stress from the start.

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  23. These are great tips! I love you title! Sometimes it's the simple things that we neglect that's why most marriage don't work.

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    1. As they say, it's really the little things, little things that can make a big difference.

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  24. I think all marriages could use refreshers and reminders. I love my Husband dearly and we are 5 years married. But life and babies can take a toll on our relationship.

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    1. Oh tell me about it. We had a lot more fun when we didn't have kids. Now it seems like I'm being taken for granted and I don't matter. It's always the kids.

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  25. These are so important thanks so much for sharing this. I always wonder what it's going to be like when I get married.

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    1. It's whatever you make of it. Thanks for stopping by.

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  26. Big resounding yes to keeping private matters private and learning to compromise. Marriage is such a sacred and unconditional bond you share with another person and the truth is it should ONLY involve the two of you each day working to nurture and protect it as fiercely as possible.

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    1. That's one of the reason why my marriage didn't work. Nothing remained private in my marriage, it was always either told to his family or friends.

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  27. These are great tips and work well. Except in my case. No matter how many of these we followed we still couldn't manage. Sometimes two people can love each other a great deal, but just aren't meant to be together. In my case, we are so much better off as friends and get along great now.

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    1. Oh I totally agree because that's how it is with me too. I wouldn't sit here and tell anyone that my marriage is perfect because it isn't but I'm at that point where we are better off as friends instead of as a couple which we haven't been in a while.

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  28. Love all of these ideas, they seem so simple - but can really make an impact on a marriage. Thank you for sharing!

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  29. These are great tips. I think humor is a big one too- you have to be able to laugh at and with each other.

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    1. I completely agree, laughter is the best medicine after all.

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  30. Oh boy-need this right now. lol the hubby is getting on my nerves. lol

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    1. Oh I can relate, but in my case he constantly gets on mine.

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  31. I love what you say about loving unconditionally. My husband and I have been married for seven years and it becomes so easy to keep score...

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    1. 7 down and lots more to go hopefully. It does get easier as the years go on.

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  32. Beautiful article. I got married in april and I am still in the honeymoon phase of wedded bliss. (although to be honest, we have been in the honeymoon phase for three years now ;) ) Thanks!

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    1. Congratulations on your wedding. Here's to wedded bliss for the rest of your lives.

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  33. These are all great. A genuine I love You is nice. My ex-husband and I quit saying it and I felt the absence because it was something we were liberal and generous with for many years.

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    1. I can relate Rosey. We've stopped saying I Love You to each other as well and at this point, I really can't say it and mean it anymore. :)

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  34. I love the "keep private life private." When I was younger I didn't really get this, and then finally one day I had a realization that talking about my husband to someone else wasn't really helping anything, so I stopped. Best choice I ever made!

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    1. I'm so happy to see that it worked for you. Sometimes being private is best.

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  35. The expectations is huge! So many people have too many and set them up for failure!

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    1. While it's ok to have expectations, having too much and too high can be a problem.

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  36. Great tips! I think there's so much we don't discuss prior to marriage because we're so caught up in the whirlwind of excitement. Things stay great until you hit a bump in the road. Recognizing that it's okay to disagree sometimes is something that's helped us immensely. We don't agree on everything because we're not the same person, but that's okay. We work through the big things and agree to disagree on the small ones.

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    1. Oh it's definitely ok to agree to disagree on certain things. When things gets so out of control and you can't control your emotions and things that you say, then maybe it's time to call it quits.

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  37. I love the points you make. I would like to add that making time for dates, not keeping a score and talking things over all make a huge difference too.

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    1. Oh I have to agree on all those 3 points. Making time for dates is really big. I can't tell the last time I've been on a date with my husband and now I think that I don't even want to go because it will just seem forced.

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  38. Omg great tips!!! As someone who was married once before my current hubby, I can definitely say your tips are spot on! Believe it or not social media was one of the main reasons my first marriage failed! I was married to someone who loved to air everything online. The good, bad and the ugly lol.... I'm all about keeping my private life private. And you know what? That's the way to be since my marriage couldn't be better! The less people involved the better!

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    1. Oh I'm married to someone like that although it's not really social media, it's his friends, and it's also one reason why my own is dying as well. So I'm learning for my next relationship as well. :)

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  39. Great tips! I'm not married but hope to be one day - I definitely think discussing finances before marriage is so important. It's so sad to see so many marriages ruined over something like money :(

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    1. Money is usually the reason most marriage fail and there's really no need for it to be.

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  40. Nice tips. I think it is easier said than done to not argue about finances. It is the number one issue for most marriages and causes so much stress.

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    1. It is easier said than done and most marriages can work if finances weren't an issue.

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  41. These are tried and true tips for a lasting marriage! I think it's very important to keep things private when it comes to a marriage or even a relationship. I've witnessed too many couples overshare on social media!

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    1. Oversharing on social media can definitely be a problem. It's one thing to overshare about your kids, but quite another to share your dirty laundry about your spouse.

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  42. Keeping private matters private is a huge one. My husband told me that as soon as we got married, not to ever discuss our private affairs with others outside of our relationship.

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    1. And your husband was right and it's probably one of the reason why you have such a strong relationship with him.

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  43. Open communication has been the key to our marriage staying happy. If we're upset with each other, we take some time to cool down and then we talk it out. Sometimes the cool down is all that's needed to gain new perspective. Other times, it takes the discussion to help us out. I feel like communication and respect is always at the heart of our relationship.

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    1. Communication and RESPECT. You've hit the nail on the head. Respect is a big thing.

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  44. Yes!!! To all of the tips from above. I've been married for 13 years now and we have our beautiful moments like a few bad ones but it's all about communication and understanding! :)

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    1. Congrats on 13 years. Here's to many more and I'm happy to hear that you've been doing all that you need to do to make your own marriage work.

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  45. This is awesome advice. There are so many things that couples leave unsaid between them and then they can just blow up later.

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    1. That is correct. That has happened in my own relationship. You keep things bottled inside instead of talking them through and that doesn't work at all.

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  46. I have never understood people that like to blast their problems in their marriage to other people. Asking for advice that's fine but just plain spilling the beans about private matters is not.

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    1. There are quite a few people like that and it's usually because they no longer care.

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  47. Arguing with finances sometimes cannot be controlled, but emotions can be. My hat's off to anyone who have already been doing all of these.

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    1. Controlling your emotions can be a lot easier than arguing but it's what you say when you argue that can make that difference.

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