The first step to truly listen to another person is to get into a relaxed state of mind. Take some deep breaths and prepare to fully open your ears and your mind to what this person is saying to you.
Do Not Speak
When the other person is talking to you it is important to not speak at all, you must learn to remain quiet while they finish what they have to say. Speaking is considered interrupting and is certainly not practicing good listening skills.
Control Body Language
A good listener will not eye roll, start fidgeting or making various body movements as a direct result of what the person is saying. You must control all body language that will deter the person from finishing the conversation with you.
The key to being a good listener is to learn to get in touch with empathy. You may not fully understand why this person is upset or talking about the subject in such a manner, all you have to do is learn to have empathy for how they feel regarding this discussion.
Some people will take long pauses in between sentences; do not be rushed to speak at each pause. Learn to practice a deeper level of patience to fully master your listening skills. Learn when a pause is the end of the discussion or just the person thinking how to say something.
Refrain from all judgement when conversing with someone, if you are truly listening to this person then your thoughts should be on a polite, empathetic, productive response as opposed to judgment.
Make Eye Contact
This is something that has to have a good balance, you won’t want to stare down the person and make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. You should remain in eye contact with them periodically throughout the listening process; this shows them you are listening.
Make Mental Notes
As a means to ensure you are not interrupting the person in mid conversation, learn to make mental notes about your responses. Think thoughts inside of your mind as opposed to immediately engaging your thoughts while the person is still talking.
Do Not Daze Out
We all have some words or thoughts that simply make us doze off and we miss part of what the person is saying to us. Be aware of your thoughts and make sure you are not dozing off and missing a portion of the conversation.
Be Kind in Your Reply
When the person is done speaking to you, be kind in your reply. Get in touch with your inner empathy and learn to speak in a level tone. Good listening skills are combined with good response skills, be sure to use all of these tips as a means to have better listening skills.
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