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Why Making Time for your Spouse Matters


Many people get confused as to why making time for their spouse matters, it’s this thought embedded within us that our children must forever be first priority. The truth is that your spouse needs to come first, yes even before your children. This doesn’t mean you love your spouse more than your children or love your children any less. The simple matter of fact reason why making your spouse a priority matter is because this is the person who will still be by your side once those children are grown.


When the world is faced with high divorce rates and many children being raised in blended family units, it’s no wonder why articles like this are surfacing all over the internet. Marriage is a vow between two people to commit long term to each other, through the good and the bad. Marriage is what ultimately will outlive the child raising days and thus is the biggest reason why you need to make time for your spouse.

A marriage takes effort from two people who have made a determination that they will forever hold their relationship above anything else that falls upon their laps. Marriage is about learning each other, growing with each other and working together towards a common goal. As your marriage continues on, there will be new goals, new interests and new ways of thinking based upon experiences in life. Regardless of experiences in your life, the marriage should always remain a number one priority.


Making time for your spouse matters because …

  • It keeps the love alive.
  • It makes your spouse feel appreciated.
  • It allows you both to reconnect apart from the stress of life.
  • It helps solidify the bond you had all those years ago when you said “I Do”.
  • It makes your marriage stronger.
  • It makes you better parents together.
  • It allows you to have a happy home where positive things transpire.
  • It means you won’t fall out of love so easily.
  • It allows you both to place value upon the marriage.
  • It helps you maintain a deeper connection.


There are so many reasons why making time for your spouse matters. The ultimate reason for ensuring you always take time to be one with your spouse, is that it will help continue the marriage long term. There won’t be a broken marriage if you both have taken the time to place a value upon your commitment to each other. Learning about your spouse, hearing about their day life beyond the regular household chatter, and really discussing matters together on a regular basis will help solidify the bond you both have.

Couples who make time for their spouse regardless of the external world difficulties are able to overcome any demand placed upon them. A marriage is a team of two people working towards a future together with their little ones in tow. One day your children will be grown and you may look at your partner as if they are a stranger if you don’t make the time for your spouse today. The last thing any spouse wants is to have their grownup children experience the breakup of a long term parental unit. Making time for your spouse now will ultimately ensure the safety of your marriage far beyond the days of raising children.

Let's discuss: How do you make time for your significant other? 

Annmarie John
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  1. We try to set date nights and go out alone at least twice a month. It's gotten harder as everyone's schedules are busier though.

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    1. Sounds like you're right on track and making time for your spouse. Way to go!

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  2. I make sure we have either a date night OUT or a movie night in once the kids are asleep. WE both work from home so going to lunch in an option sometimes, too.

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    1. It's amazing when you get to spend quality time together and not just "family time".

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  3. I love this post! All the money and success in the world don't matter if it costs you your marriage. Time together is the cement that holds a marriage together.

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    1. That is very true Stacie. Some people focus so much on their jobs and trying to make as much money as they can, while their marriage suffer because their spouse is left alone and neglected.

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  4. It is so important to spend time with your spouse even when you have kids. It really makes a difference in your marriage.

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    1. It truly does Pam. Thanks for stopping by.

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  5. I absolutely love this post and I'm gonna show it to my significant other because I agree that putting your spouse first is the right way to go because that's the person you will spend your life with, the person who will be there while kids grow up, have their own families who will become their first priority. We spend quality time together in the evenings and in the afternoon but it would be nice if we could spend a weekend, just us together but to my spouse, his kids come first, we didn't even get to spend our first valentines day together because of this and I was devastated so he really needs to read this and thank you for sharing it!

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    1. Awww you're very welcome and I can certainly relate because I went through the same thing as well. :(

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  6. My husband and I do date afternoons on Sunday when the girls go to their grandparents house. Something simple like lunch or even just browsing Target. It's those simple moments that really bind us. 20 years together, we definitely put our relationship first.

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    1. Congratulations on making it to the big 2-0. Not much people can say that. Sounds like you two know what truly matters.

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  7. It can be hard spending quality time with your spouse when everyone's schedules are so hectic! We try to watch a movie every night after the kids go to bed.

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    1. Well that certainly is one way to spend some alone time together. Not one watching TV, while the other is in another room doing their own thing.

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  8. I couldn't agree more! We try to spend as much time together after the kids go to bed but we just had baby #7 on the 10th and its been crazy around here since...... we need to get back to it! - Jeanine

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    1. Congrats on the baby and I'm sure that things will get back to normal very soon.

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  9. This post is so so important! My husband travels so much and then when he's home, he spends time with the kids. We always try to make it a point to get out for a date night.

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    1. Date nights are very important. Remember it's not all about the kids and not about work either. You do need that one on one time with your spouse.

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  10. I spend most of the time with my hubby and my son. I will spend more solo time with my hubby.

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    1. While it's important to spend time with both of them, it's also very important to spend time with your husband. Very soon it may just be the two of you when your son is off to college or on his own.

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  11. My husband and I used to always slow down and take time with each other. He has recently passed away which makes you adore the time all that much more.

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    1. I'm pretty sure that you miss him but you have some memories of your time together to cherish.

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  12. Making hubby a nice meal is how we spend time together more. Just us, enjoying each others company with good food and talking about whats going on in our lives.

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    1. That is also a great way to celebrate and spend time together.

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  13. I can't really imagine a marriage without making time for my hubby. I love the time we can spend together (just two of us) working out or hiking.

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    1. Taking time to spend with your hubby is very important and I'm happy to hear that you two have something that you love to do together.

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  14. You do have good tips here. You're def. going to want to keep that path straight with the person you'll be spending the rest of your life with.

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    1. Yes you sure are and while a lot of people think you don't need to do it, you really should. It does make the bond between you both stronger.

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  15. Making time for a spouse is such a basic thing, but so many people seem to forget it.

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    1. Yes a lot of people do but never take your spouse for granted.

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  16. It is so important to make time for each other. It is to easy to become disconnected as a couple. Little surprises are a great way to make your spouse smile.

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    1. It's those little surprises that makes your day and it is important to make time for each other.

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  17. it's very important to make time and just have "couple" moments.

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    1. When couples have kids they tend to forget that and focus on "family", and while family time together is great, couple time is also important.

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  18. Sometimes all we have time for is sitting together when the kids are in bed, and that's what we will do.

    Pamela | http://itspamdel.com

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    1. Sounds like you're trying to make the most of your time and even spending quality time together, sitting and watching a movie, or even talking is still good.

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  19. Making time for your spouse is important, it keeps the bond and the marriage strong. It's one of the things that you should never neglect, even if it means a movie night at home or a quick dinner. A lot of couples seem to forget spending time with each other especially when they start having kids. They have to realize how important it is and this post is an awesome reminder.

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    1. Yes a LOT of couples seem to forget that and it's what cause marriage breakdowns, along with other reasons of course but you do need to make time for each other.

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  20. This is so important and not just early in the marriage. My husband and I are facing the empty nest years and now I've learned why it was so important to grow together and spend time together earlier in our relationship.

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    1. Oh I can't even begin to imagine what it's like to have an empty nest although I can't wait for that day to happen to me. :)

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  21. Oh, this is really important. We all have our difficult times in marriage but what important is to stay married.

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    1. That is true but some people just don't know how to make their marriage work and instead opt for divorce.

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  22. It's hard to set up date nights with a baby. I hope she grows a little older so we can have US time -- it's really important.

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    1. Trust me, it's not that hard, you just need to find a great babysitter. :)

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