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Dating Tips for Single Parents



When you have been in a relationship for a long time with a partner, and you're now single, getting back in the dating scene can be overwhelming. When you have kids it can be even more daunting. Dating as a single parent can be downright frustrating and scary. You are in this mindset of wanting to find companionship, but you have children to think about as well. The world of dating can be a scary place for any single parent, for they want to connect with another person while still protecting their children from another loss. We understand your feelings and want to provide you with some dating tips for single parents, because this chapter in your life doesn’t have to be a negative one.


Remember You’re Creating a Family

Consider this tip number 1: you are dating to create a family, whoever you determine to commit to will play the parent role with you.

No longer are the days where dating only involved you and another adult, these days you are dating for a crowd. Your children will notice more about your dating life than you, they will dissect that partner you bring around them and are sure to have jealousy issues when their single parent starts dating again. Take into consideration the personality traits of the person you choose to date, because the personality not only needs to mesh with you, but with your offspring as well.


Maintain Patience When Choosing to Date

Consider this tip number 2:  no longer are you first in line, allow time for your children to accept you as a single parent before bringing a new person into their life.

In regards to the children involved, try to maintain some patience when it comes to choosing to date. If you recently separated from your children’s other parent, they are not going to be so welcoming to this idea of dating as you are. Let’s face it, you are separated because the relationship faded long ago, your children however don’t feel that way. Allow time for the shock of the parental split to subside before introducing your children to another potential parental unit.

Invite Older Children without Force

Consider this tip number 3: give your older children time to build a bond at their own pace, rather than forcing them to accept a new parental figure.

Being a single parent to older children can make dating even more difficult to handle, because your older children understand what is going on a bit deeper than the younger ones. Once you have determined who you want to create this new family with, extend an invite to your older children to come along on some dates. Extending an invite to have your older child to go to dinner or out to an event with you and your new partner will allow them to slowly accept and form a bond with this new person.


Continue Having Time with Your Children

Consider this tip number 4: take time to balance your love life and parent life, your children will start to pull away if they feel your new partner is taking you away from them.

While you may be head over heels in love and want to spend every waking moment with this new found love, STOP. Do not allow this new in-love feeling to take away from the time that your children need with you. If you start to allow your new partner to be the center of your world, you will find your children slowly detaching from you and they may even request to go live with their other parent. This is the last thing a single parent wants, it will totally crush you. Learn to pace the dating scene and take time to balance both, time spent with your new love and children to ensure this will be a long lasting accepted change.

Let's discuss: What other dating tips can you share for single parents?
Annmarie John
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  1. These are absolutely awesome tips! I am not a single parent, but everything I read in here sounds pretty spot on from what I would guess when it comes to dating!

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    1. Thank you Jeanette. I'm not a single parent either but I do remember what it was like when I first started dating.

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  2. These are great tips for single parents who want to get back into the dating world. You definitely don't want your kids to feel like your partner is taking you away. That will only breed resentment.

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    1. You most certainly don't and you want to be sure that person is a good fit for your family as well.

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  3. I have a friend who had to go through the whole single parent dating thing. It was a really touchy thing for a while.

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    1. It can be because you want someone you can love and trust, but you also want someone who is great with the kids.

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  4. Interesting post! When I was a single mom I waited until I knew for sure that the relationship was going somewhere before I introduced my daughter to my now husband. I didn't want her getting caught up in my dating drama.

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    1. That was a very good decision. You don't want to introduce your kids to everyone just in case it doesn't work out.

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  5. These are absolutely wonderful tips about dating when you are a single parent. I am sure this subject is something every single parent struggles with.

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    1. Some get lucky and some don't, hopefully our tips may help someone.

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  6. These are great tips on dating for single parents. I think it's so important to still give plenty of attention to the kids and make sure they still feel special at all times.

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    1. That is very true. You don't want to not include them so that they start feeling left out.

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  7. These are awesome tips to make the situation the best it can be for everyone! It can't be easy so thanks for sharing all of these techniques.

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    1. Oh it most certainly isn't easy when you're a single parent, add in dating and it becomes even harder.

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  8. I think it's really important to consider the rapport between the kids and the potential partner. They are largely affected by any decisions.

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    1. Yes they are the ones who are usually most affected and you should certainly consider that.

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  9. I could not imagine how difficult it would be to date as a single parent. Not only do you have to consider your own needs, but also your children's. Great tips.

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    1. Yes you have to consider everyone's needs. Thank you for stopping by Hugh.

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  10. Yes, yes, and yes! I wish this was around a few months ago when I started dating my boyfriend. It would have been an easier way to explain some things to him.

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    1. Thank you Kristen, and while I'm hoping it all works out for you, just in case it doesn't, you'll have this to fall back on if you start dating again.

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  11. Here are great tips. Dating while you are a parent is quite tricky!!

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    1. Yes it can be very tricky but you should be able to do it right with these tips.

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  12. Great advice! My parents were divorced and I remember when I was a teen watching my mom date! If your parents do it right, it won't bother your kids one bit!

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    1. My parents were married right up until their death. I don't think I could imagine my mom dating anyone else really. :)

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  13. These are great tips. I was very lucky when I met my husband. My children were very small and accepted him right away. 6 years later, they love him to pieces and none of us can imagine life without him!

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    1. I think it might actually be so much easier when the kids are younger. When they're older, especially teenagers, they prefer you not to date and it can be difficult introducing someone new into their life.

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  14. Such great tips! I can imagine single parenting is hard, so getting back into the dating scene shouldn't have to be. Great tips! -Kendall

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    1. Being a single parent is no easy feat, dating while you're a parent is just as tough. Hopefully these tips will help.

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  15. These are some lovely tips for both single parents getting back into the game and others

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    1. Thank you Anosa and thanks for stopping by.

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  16. Great advice! These are great tips for single parents! Single parenting is hard.

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    1. Yes single parenting can be very hard indeed.

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