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To Pierce or Not to Pierce (Her Ear) That is the Question



I was recently out with my toddler at the park when another mom came up to me and said "she's so cute, are you going to pierce her ears?". What did that tell me? Maybe I'm over-thinking or over-reacting but to me it said, well she's cute but maybe if she had her ears pierced and had some earrings in she'll be cuter. When did having your ears pierced represent beauty? I personally didn't have my ears pierced until I was around age 15 and it was a decision I made without even my mom knowing. I remember going with a few friends one day after school and getting it done. I also remember hiding my ears so my mom wouldn't find out.


When I had my daughter Krxssy I didn't consult her, I didn't ask her opinion or the opinion of anyone else, not even her dad, I decided to get her ears pierced at 6 months of age. I remember her little scream of pain but she looked "so cute" after it was done. Granted I spent the next few weeks making sure that her little ears didn't become infected which thankfully it didn't. When she got older she decided that earrings weren't quite her thing and she stopped wearing them. Even myself now that I'm older I very rarely wear earrings and you'll only see them in my ears on special occasion. I have 5 holes in total, 3 in one ear and 2 in the other and I very rarely wear a pair.

Krxssy as a baby with ears pierced
So what made me decide not to pierce Madison's ear? Maybe it's the fact that I'm now older and I want her to make that decision for herself. Maybe I would prefer not to have someone from Claires or wherever else ears are done these days to touch my daughter with that little gun that made my oldest cry in pain. Maybe I don't want to have a daughter who would regret that her ears are pierced because she never wanted it in the first place. Maybe I also would prefer not to have to fight an infection if it does become infected. I also fear that she might be the one in a million who may have those big as plum lumps on her ear. Whatever the reason it's my decision.


When Madison was born I made the decision that it was her body and she was going to be the ultimate decision maker on whether her ears get pierced or not. Maybe she might not want to get it done and that will be her decision and I will have to respect it. I'm not against parents doing what they think is best for their kids because it's their kids. Me on the other hand I'm going to give her choices. Let her make that decision and hopefully it will be the right one... for her!

So lets discuss: What are you opinions of babies/toddlers getting their ears pierced? Trust me I won't judge you. :) 

Annmarie John
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  1. If I had a little girl, I would have done it as an infant. Little girls are so cute in earrings.

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  2. I peirced both my girls ears when they were just a few months old but I think is up to each parent how they want to proceed with their daughters.

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  3. I didn't get my ears pierced until I was about age 15 also--my Mom took me to a doctor to have them done--he did one crooked!! I used to wear earrings but no more. I agree let the kids make the decision on their own---enough can go wrong that I certainly wouldn't want to take the responsibility of having it done to a baby-although many do I know.

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  4. I had to wait until I was 12. I hated it, but it also gave me something to look forward to. Plus I felt so old when I finally turned 12:)

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  5. My sister-in-law got my niece's ears pierced when she was just a young baby and I realized it's probably best then, or when they're old enough to know proper hygiene and put earrings in and out. It's tough! I did it myself when I was ten. Scarlet will be six in July and has never shown interest, but if she does - it's worth a conversation!

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  6. I personally wait until my kids are old enough and can ask for them. I think it's up to the parent really. I have nothing against it, I just would rather wait and see if they want them. Mine did at age 5 and 6. They've both since taken them out and the holes closed up and haven't bothered asking for them again (they are now 8 and 9!) - Jeanine

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  7. yes! I totally think girls should have their ears pierced! But that is just my opinion.Both my girls have been pierced since 8 weeks old

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  8. I think it depends on the parent and if they feel it's right for their child. I had a boy so we didn't have to worry about this. however my parents chose to wait till I was 13 before letting me get mine pierced.

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  9. I think it's great that you're going to let her decide. We waited until my daughter was older to do piercings and I think she was happy with the results.

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  10. I think it's great that you have decided to give her the choice. At the tender age of five my son said to me; "mummy what you may think is cute may not be cute in my sight". He was referring to his haircuts that I always chose. I preferred less hair, he wanted more. I eventually began allowing him to choose his haircuts. He's now 13 and maintains his own identity.

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  11. I think it can be cute but at the same time just another responsibility issue. Now you need to take care of one more thing and the fear of the earrings coming undone. I had them done as a child and they closed up and were uneven. I got them done again as a child...same issue plus an infection. To this day, my one ear looks like it has (3) holes even though only one is open. I'm sure they are still uneven lol. It's certainly a personal preference but unless I have a daughter I am not sure how I will feel.

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  12. I think it is great you are letting her decide. I pierced my daughter's ear at the age of 8

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  13. I decided to wait on it for my daughter and she is now 6. She still has no desire to have them. I did not get mine until I was 7.

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  14. we made my daughter wait until she was finished with 4th grade. It is a lot of responsibility but I had them done to me in 2nd.

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  15. my 4 y/o daughter had her ear pierced when shes 2 y/o. hubby doesn't want our daughters ears to be pierced coz he feels like our daughter is growing up so fast, weird!

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  16. Personally, I think on one hand it's good to wait so that she can decide for herself. Who knows, she may not even want her ears pierced. On another hand, When gotten done at a young age, they forget the pain pretty fast. I guess it's just up to the parents. I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was a baby and I instantly felt bad when she started to cry.

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  17. I got my ears pierced when I was in pre-school. think about 4 or 5 yrs old. and after that when I was in my teens, I got another 2 holes pierced in my right ear, but those 2 got infected and I had to let them close back up. but the ones I got when I was young is probably here to stay. haven't been wearing earrings for a long time but those earholes are still around.

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  18. My mum didn't pierce my ears when I was young. And now I still yet to have any piercing experience. Always try to imagine myself with ear rings, but it seems weird to have that on me. =\

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  19. oh my gosh! We had the same struggle and question. Wrote the blog too! lol we did FINALLY pierce. She was 2 1/2. She cried but she loves them now!

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  20. I think this should be a decision of our daughter when she is old enough to decide for herself. But I admit, we also got her ears pierced as an infant, but she was very sensitive to metals so ended up not wearing earrings. Later on when she was older, she decided she really wanted them pierced.

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  21. Haha, I made that choice myself, when I was young. And my mum brought me to get it pierced, done within minutes! Although I don't really wear earrings now, I'm still glad I did it.

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  22. Personally I do not like it. Here, the stereotype of parents of young children with pierced ears isn't great. My daughter has been told she has to be over 12. I was 13... and then when I was 18 git bored and went to get my 2nd set. A week later, was bored again and went to get my 3rd set. Now... I barely remember my ears are pierced. Need to start remembering!!

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  23. Personally I do not like it. Here, the stereotype of parents of young children with pierced ears isn't great. My daughter has been told she has to be over 12. I was 13... and then when I was 18 git bored and went to get my 2nd set. A week later, was bored again and went to get my 3rd set. Now... I barely remember my ears are pierced. Need to start remembering!!

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  24. My daughter's ears were pierced when she was an infant. It was easier that way and they healed almost instantly.

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  25. Let your child decide. This is just a father's decision.

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  26. I think it would better for them to get used to it early. Having their piercing earlier can mean faster recovery.

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  27. I did Mia's when she was 6 months, but they did get infected a few weeks later regardless of me taking excellent care of them. She has an allergy to gold so it just didn't work out for her. I totally see where you are coming from to wait so that children can decide themselves. To me it is to each their own, a parent can make the decision they feel is best. Many kids are glad that their parents did it when they were young so that they don't remember it and grow up with earrings, others take them out because they don't want them.

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  28. We did this for both of our daughters when they were babies and neither of them wear earrings now. My youngest daughter let hers grow up and my older daughter wears earrings maybe once a year. Our ears get infected too easily. I usually only wear them for special occasions because I'm allergic to every metal.

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  29. Personally we think body modifications should be done with the child's permission and request. I know many kids who have lopsided or one sided piercings due to the pain. Our daughter is 7 and even though culturally my husband's family has it done early, early... we decided to wait and let her ask. She has asked, we told her how it is done and that she may bleed, and she will have to keep them clean, and she always says she'll maybe do it later.

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  30. everyone i know had their ears pierced as a toddler. i waited till i was 11. earrings didnt interest me as a kid much

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  31. Nothing wrong with ears piercing, make sure it is well sanitize to avoid infection. My two girls had it when their were 6 months old. I love seeing them with earrings, so cute and lovely.

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  32. Little girls must undergone ear piercing at an early age. Besides girls need this for events and daily use. I encouraged my female children to do the same.

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  33. I guess it truly is up to the parents whether or not they decide to pierce the ears when the kid is still a toddler so they won't remember the pain when they grow up, but it also makes sense to make them decide for themselves. This is quite a dichotomy. Haha! :)

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  34. This is a great perspective! I honestly don't know when I was pierced but usually, in our country, female children as pierced at an early age just so for others to know she's a female child. I think I look like a boy so I had to be pierced! Haha. Kidding aside, for years now, I haven't worn earrings because the hole gets irritated even with stainless + hypoallergenic accessories. So technically, the earring holes are useless.

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  35. Personally, I think it's pretty pointless for a baby to get their ears pierced til 3 - 5 years old when they can ask for it. There's not much point in a baby having their ears pierced , but a lot of people do it. My daughter had hers done at 5 years old, but like me hers got infected after 3 wks so we had to take them out. I don't handle any piercings very well; they all get infected. I'm not sure why.

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  36. Agreed! My daughter just got her eats pierced for her tenth birthday and only because she was practically begging. I don't think I needed one more thing to worry about as a baby and in pretty sure I would have been racked with guilt over making my baby cry. This way she wanted it and is capable of taking care of them herself. Also, I don't want to go too far in the other direction because my mom wouldn't allow me to get mine done so, like you, I pierced them myself...I also double pierced them AND pierced my cartilage all by myself (in middle school). I do not want to drive my daughter to take such destructive measures.

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