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Helpful Tips to Deal with a Teenager


Are your kids getting older? If so, you might be dreading the infamous teen stage. Trust me it can be almost as bad as the terrible two's. As a mom who've gone through the teenage years with one older child, and with a 14 year old son in the house I can speak from experience that things aren't as easy as it may seem on TV. You know the Brady Bunch scenario where everything is peachy and nice. It doesn't happen in the average household. You’ve heard from other parents that teens can be unmanageable and difficult, making you dread this stage even more. Although there’s no denying that the teenager stage can be difficult, it isn’t unmanageable. By having rules in place and giving your teen some freedoms, your entire family will survive this stage. Here are some of our tried and true tips that can help you deal with your teenager.

Set the Rules

If you have a teenager at home, you’ll also need some rules. Discuss the household rules with your teen and your other children, letting them know ahead of time what’s expected and what consequences are in place for infractions. By having rules in place, your teenager will know what to expect, including what will happen if they choose to break a rule.

Acknowledge Their Independence

As your children get older, they become more and more independent. Even though this might be a difficult step, it’s important that you acknowledge your teenager’s independence. If you have younger children, give your teenager more freedom than their younger siblings. Let your teenager know that you trust them to make the right choices so that they know that their freedom also comes with responsibility.

Give Them Choices

Let your teenager make a few choices for themselves. Although there must be rules in place, give your teenager the freedom to decorate their own room or to pick out their own clothes. Obviously you won’t let your teenager leave the house in something inappropriate, but with the right expectations in place, your teenager will cherish these choices and will most likely make appropriate decisions.

Cut Them Some Slack

Your teenager is going through a lot of changes. Their hormones are all over the place as their bodies change and develop into adults. Because of this, your teen is sure to have emotional outbursts and will push the line to see what they can get away with. You can’t prevent this from happening, but you can cut them some slack. Decide what’s important to you and allow some of the smaller infractions to pass. Give your teenager some space to calm down after an emotional outburst and then assure them of your love. This will do a lot to help your teenager get through this difficult stage.

Having a teenager in your home is notoriously difficult, but it doesn’t need to be impossible.

What are some tips you have for dealing with teenagers? We’d love to hear from you.

Annmarie John
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  1. I dread when mine get older I wish they could stay small forever especially since I am pretty sure Sierra is my last little one I will be having. I know I need to be more strict and not break the rules I set for the kids.

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  2. The teenage years are past us in this household but when I think back, they were not as bad as I might have expected. I had only boys and they were very involved in sports and kept busy with that...so actually their teen years were a fun time for our family. I do agree with everything you said in this post and I think allowing them to be independent is so important. Of course within reason.

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  3. These are great tips. My step son is 17, so I have a little experience already, which should help when my 2 are older.

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  4. We have two teenagers at home, so thank you so much for those wonderful tips :D

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  5. I am SO glad these years are past for my kids who are now young adults. The most challenging times for me as a parent. My kids luckily did not have the terrible 2's but they hit the terrible teen stage for sure lol Thanks for sharing this great advice with parents going through the "terrible teens"

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  6. Oh...I have NO tips on this at all. But I WILL share this post with parents of teens that I know!

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  7. I let my teens know that they can talk to me about anything. Teens need sleep so enforce a bedtime.

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  8. I was an awful teen (I was ill - though I try not to blame it all on that) I am very thankful for all my parents did. x

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  9. Breath and pray. Those are my best two tips. And stick to your guns. I hate to say not to trust them but don't always trust them. It's tough.

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  10. I am far from there yet. But I am sharing around and bookmarking

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  11. Teenagers can definitely be difficult. Luckily my daughter is out of that stage and my son almost is. These are great tips.

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  12. i was a teenager with a learning disability - i can't even begin to imagine what my mom must have gone through

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  13. How do you deal with 4 at one time? :) LOL! My oldest is only 10 but I am already seeing some changes in her, not that they are bad just different. Each stage has it's challenges I guess.

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  14. Teenagers get super rebellious at times and may not want to spend time with you as much; but you wait through it and as they get older they tend to realize how much they missed out!

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  15. These are great tips. We are past the teenage years and feel very lucky that we didn't have a lot of challenges with our kids.

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  16. I definitely need these tips. I have a thirteen year old who is..well, being a teenager. Amber N

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  17. My teen is easy to deal with. It's the preteen that drives me bonkers. We do have rules though, and I think consistency is always key in dealing with teens.

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  18. I remember some of the grief I gave my Mom. I am sure that will come back to bite me in the butt. LOL.

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  19. My parents definitely set ground rules, but also let me slowly gain independence. Luckily for my sisters, I helped pave the way for them.

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  20. I don't have teenagers yet but I work with them often at my church. I do believe when you have a solid relational foundation built it can make those years much less challenging. It's not going to be easy .... raging hormones are no fun as an adult and I do remember what it was like being a teenager even though it has been some time ago. LOL

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  21. My personal philosophy when I was dealing with my daughter was to try and remember what it was like at that age for me. It gave me a good perspective of what she was going through.

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  22. Great tips! I'm getting close to teenage years and I'm nervous! I know what I was like so this shall be interesting!

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  23. I thought the teens weren't so bad with the boys. My daughter sometimes gives me a run for my money with attitude.I'm learning to increase my patience load. ;)

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  24. I understand it is not easy to manage when your kids enter in their teen age. These are really great tips to deal with & I agree with giving them choices & at the same time setting the rules, so they know their limit.

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  25. I am about to have three teenager girls as my girls are 19, 16 and 12. I would say the best advice is to pick your battles.

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  26. Oh boy I am not looking forward to these years. I struggle with sticking to my rules.

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  27. My mother was one to let me make my own choices as a teen. If I made the wrong one, I had to suffer those consequences. I try to teach kiddo that every choice she is given has its own set of consequences and she needs to stop and think about both of them before deciding. Then, if it is wrong for her, she has to live with that. I have 3 more years before she's a teen.

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